The first time I read about women carrying the mental load of the family I felt like I had finally been seen. If you’re a mom, you probably recognize this train of thought.
“School is starting. Shit. That means that I better start thinking about Halloween costumes. And Thanksgiving. Who’s turn is it to host this year? Should we travel to Atlanta to see Aunt Sally this year? Will we need Covid tests? And I need to update the family photo for the Christmas cards. Better find out if there are any fall sessions left. Do the kids all need new winter jackets?”
This “future forecasting “is something that most women do hundreds of times in a week. Even if you and your partner make most of the household decisions together, society has placed a huge load on moms to work out how the decisions come together.
The American Sociological Review breaks down the mental load into four parts: anticipate, identify, decide, monitor. And, if you’re like most women, the holidays take up a lot of mental space, which is why we start worrying about them months ahead of time.
What if this year could be different?
What if this year, you gave yourself permission to do the holidays in a way that brought you joy and as little emotional labor as possible?
Sit down and make a list of everything you love and everything you feel you “have to” do for the holidays. Talk to your partner and your kids. Decide what stays and what can go or be modified. If your kids balk at the idea of not having a cookie exchange, then put them in charge of making some of the cookie dough ahead of time and freeze it.
Think of all the ways you can cut out the stress while keeping the part of the holiday that feels sacred to all of you.
Want to take the stress out of what to give your partner for the holidays? I got you there, girl. Get on my calendar NOW for a boudoir session, and this experience will not only take away from your emotional load, but it will also make you feel AMAZING.
Professional hair and makeup, a closet packed full of fantastic items. All you have to do is walk in the door, and we take care of the rest. We take care of that sacred part of you that you’ve been holding back, ignoring, too busy to attend to…whatever is going on, you leave it at the door, and it’s all about YOU.
We’ll help you choose the perfect way to gift these amazing photos, too. Bring on the holidays, and kick that mental load to the curb, girl! from little black books to VA VA VOOM portraits for your boudoir, we’re going to blow your mind with the options.